1. You care a lot for people, even when you've been "burned" 1000+ times.
You tend to give more love and understanding than the average person. That is because a Healer sees beyond the ego fascade, straight to the Divinity within everyone, whether you're aware of it or not. You sometimes get walked all over, until you learn boundaries: One of your life's hardest lessons. When you feel or see someone hurt, you almost can't NOT help. You have a knack for knowing just what to do to help people. 2. You tend to be that person people come to for comfort. People just feel better when you're around, though you may not know that yourself. Your presence alone can also make people who aren't used to being "seen" feel antsy around you, which you often mistake for something you "did wrong." 3. You have an affinity for psychology, theology, spirituality, and other abstract and creative subjects. You love all things that require a "sixth sense," or abstract understanding and ability, because that is the way you are wired to operate. You love subjects that take you on a deep diving, soulful mystery. People and their behaviour fascinate you. You get lost in art and/or music, and in fact feel most yourself when you are immersed in these activities. Creativity and expression give you a sense of groundedness. 4. Your hands sweat or get warm, and even hot for no reason. Many Healers are "hands-on" healers, but not ALL are. However, you may notice your hands get extra warm when you are helping or even thinking about helping someone. Other times, they get hot for seemingly no reason. No worries, that is just a signal that you are being called on to be a healing "doorway," or even to heal something in yourself! 5. You can be social, but you really prefer solitude. Being "on-call" at all times can get tiring, especially as your intuition gets stronger, your capacity to feel and be aware also grows. You care about being present for everyone, and therefore feel a bit overloaded in large crowds because you tune in to what's around you that much more. Being a healer is a GREAT blessing. We ALL have some kind of gift that is useful in the world. Healers tend to come here for the SOLE (soul lol) purpose of developing, and using their gifts. Remember your struggles are grooming you for the job! Healers tend to be much more aware of a connection with a Higher Power, which can ruin "3D life" as they've previously known it. Staying balanced and grounded as a Healer is another big life lesson. This is an art that must be cultivated every day. Having a daily connection and cleansing practice is key, as well as having mentors and people in your close circle to walk with you. It is the purpose of RLG Holistic Life Coaching & Reiki to create this community, and to be a support in your growth as a Healer and Human Citizen. Much Love! <3
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How can you know you are missing something, if you have never had it? Well, you could have had it, and then "lost" it. Or you can begin to notice other people having it, while you don't. At least you don't THINK you do...
Searching... What am I even searching for? I'm not really sure. Perhaps a feeling. An experience. An embrace. A touch. A presence. A love. Feelings of security. Support. Teamwork Where did you go? Hello? Ughhh. I'm all alone. Bump. Will you be the one? Ouch...nope. Bump. Will you be the one? oooh yeahh..ouch..no. SLAM! OOh, How about you!? This is it, yeahh..ohh!! Ouch. no. Well crap...now what? WAHHHHHHH. Argggghhh. Hmmmpphhhh. I quit. Ah. I got it. MONEY! CAREER! MINE! You're fired. We're laying you off. You're fired. Denied unemployment benefits. Nearly homeless, living on PB & J. Hmm..maybe this security stuff is not in money. Or people...how about God. Is it God? God. You go with me everywhere anyway right? How do I turn to you? .... ...... ........ ???????????????????????????????????????????????? Hello ???????????????????????? I begin sensing a smile. A "FINALLY" kind of smile. Go "FINALLY" yourself God! Ughhhh what the heck is this! Welcome Home. Welcome to You. Welcome to What's been with you all along. Now what? GREAT question! Now what? IDK, you tell me. That's why I have been asking for your help, duh. Why don't you tell me... (Someone is listening, and not telling me what to do?! WHAT?) I have heard it said that LISTENING is the highest form of love...How could I have not made this connection before? Umm... cuz now was the perfect time. Now is always the "perfect time." So now what......? ...is dead. Indeed.
For many years, I took great pride in "figuring things out." I was just "sooo smart." (Lol) What I didn't realize, was that it was also killing me. Having things figured out mentally and psychologically doesn't leave much room for true Spirituality, does it? My attachment to being a smart woman & not sharing what I was learning, had driven me deeper, and deeper into "self," and thus deeper and deeper into loneliness and isolation. The more "separate" I felt, the more I wanted to just die. In these times, I would seek and seek and seek (after I whined for awhile of course!). I experienced many great "Aha" moments, followed by many great ideas that I thought were the key to my life. However, I was missing a major piece of the puzzle. Action. I was also missing Humility and God. I thought I was to do this on my own, don't ya know!? I am grateful to have been gifted with these wonderful revelations, yet overtime, my life was lacking True Peace, Joy, & Vitality. My Faith was without works, and I was dying. I was speaking one day with a very wise woman. I asked her, "do you ever stop getting nervous when you go on stage?" She replied, "No. I always want to stay a little nervous I think, so that I never forget I need to rely on God to help me. If I think I got this, I'm in trouble." Wow! That statement blew me away! I don't think she knows the extent to which she touched my life that day, but it has been huge! I am super grateful for that interaction because since then, I have personally applied that principle to my life. I am always a student. I never want to stop learning and growing. And now I know, that I don't have to do "it" alone anymore! I have found that in this practice of Faith and letting go, courage comes to me that I've never known even existed! The power of God/Universe/Whatever-You-Call-It working in & through my friends and I together, instead of me forcing things to work on my own, has brought more joy into my life than I could ever imagine. I am so grateful for those little gifts that come at just the right time, that completely shift my entire life's course into a better direction. I hope I can be that for others. I want to pay it forward! Relationships. What feeling does that word provoke within you? When we ask that question to folks across the world, we will get a whole slew of answers. I find it interesting that relationships are troublesome to many, yet it is what most of us cherish and desire most. I'm referring to all kinds of relationships here. Family, friends, lovers, co-workers, roommates, etc. Why do they trouble us?
Don't ask me! I hope you weren't looking for me to answer that question for you. Your answer is within you, and that is what coaching is all about. Finding your OWN answers. What I can talk about though, is how relationships have transformed through coaching, and practicing holistic living. My life story was your typical, "my childhood was hard, my parents sucked, my partners all left me and cheated, I can't do anything right, wah wah wah." Ok, fine. I'll tell you a story. A true story. A little piece of me. When I was 12. I was molested. (Wow, didn't expect I was going to talk about that) 12 years old can be a very confusing age for a young lady as it is, going through her bodily changes and all. Those are the years where we really learn about our relationship to our bodies. Being molested taught me that my body was free reign, and not to be respected. Not even by me. It taught me that in order to get attention, in order to get love, in order to feel good, I need to give myself away until I have nothing left. ...I'm 32, and realizing this connection on a deeper level as we speak. This is as live-feed as it gets... Coming from this mindset of giving myself away until I have nothing left, you can only imagine the types of relationships I created for myself. I would never express my feelings properly in situations when people would hurt me and do harmful things to me, because I didn't want to lose their attention and "safety." I had a hard time sharing the love I had for them as well, out of fear of being rejected if they didn't feel the same. Sharing compliments that I meant from my heart, literally made my veins bulge in my forehead, filling my chest with anxiety until I finally cried, choking out the words I love you. On the other hand, unbeknownst to me, I was controlling and demanding. Being so afraid of losing someone, I put impossible expectations on their behavior towards me so that they would fail and I could punish them. Usually my punishment was the silent treatment, breaking up, running away. Avoidance. Avoidance is a great word for this. But what was I REALLY avoiding? I was avoiding Love. The whole time. I was avoiding the pain of losing Love, of not getting what I want. Leaving, avoiding, running away, are great ways of tricking myself into believing I have control. Think about it. If I leave before they leave me, then I win. Right? Yikes! THAT is how my relationships have been in a nutshell. Now, as an evolving human, just like everyone else, I am not perfect. Nor do I wish to be perfect. I wish to be happy, to be peaceful, to be loving. How could I possibly do that when I am looking outside of myself to be fulfilled? It's insanity! Literally. I needed a coach, and mentor to tell me how crazy I was being. Sometimes I really hated when they asked probing questions. My defenses were THICK. However, like a fish in water, you can't know you're in it, until you experience being out of it for the first time. BOOM. That was the sound of the first relationship where I became aware of my avoiding everything. It wasn't pretty. I tried like hell to run away, but unfortunately, no matter how far I got, I still felt awful on the inside, and she still loved me. BOOM. That is the sound of the realization that the relationship I need to enhance most, is the relationship with myself, my own body, my own love, my own spirituality and beliefs, my own career/skills, my own prosperity, my own health, just me. Me, myself, and I. When I'm right with myself on the inside, its amazing how different the world on the outside looks, even if its exactly the same. It's magical really. I don't understand it, and I don't need to understand it. I am just grateful these days when the change in perspective comes. BOOM. That is the sound of the first time I realized I am not a victim to anyone or anything, unless I choose to be, and even then I am choosing it. In essence, being a victim isn't even real. Molested or not. It happened, so what. It was that very experience that eventually brought me to my knees in a desperation that led me straight onto a path of self-discovery and healing. Had that not happened, maybe I would have never gotten desperate enough to seek a change. To seek something different and new for my life. I cant tell you, the journey has NOT been easy...but it HAS been absolutely wonderful. My coaches and mentors, yes multiples of them, and Holistic practices have saved my life. They were with me step by step, helping to guide me along my way. Because of them, years of pain, suffering, resentment, fear, and whatever else that weighed me down, began to melt away. Sometimes my burdens melted quickly, and other times, it took me a little longer to let go. I am still evolving, and always will be. I strive to not expect perfection for myself. I have learned to not put impossible expectations on my behavior for myself, so that I can justify my own self-punishment, just like I did in my relationships with others. Today, I accept myself for who I am, where I am, how I am. There's really nothing else I can do about the rest. The world will be as it is. I get to choose today how I want to show up. That is a power within me, that is always within you, and everyone, that I didn't realize we even had. What a freedom, what a gift. I thank God for it every day, and I thank God that your eyes and heart were able to read this blog post today. Feel free to share the love! Glad you asked! Let me break it down piece by piece.
"Holistic" is a term used when a modality is addressing the WHOLE person: Mind, Body, Spirit. Or, Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually, and Energetically. "Life," well that's pretty explanatory, its what we're up to here. "Coach," is someone who enthusiastically teaches and guides someone, or a team, in a certain set of skills, sport, way of living, etc. The best coaches are ones who are skilled in what they are teaching and guiding others to do because they have most likely done it themselves. Someone who played guitar their whole life, while they may be an AMAZING musician, most likely wouldn't make a very successful football coach, right? Well, same goes with a Holistic Life Coach. The best Holistic Life Coaches, are those who are skilled in a Holistic way of living because they live it themeselves. Since 2004, I have been on a "Mind-Body-Spirit," two feet in, delusion-busting, tear jerking, laughter inducing, ("balls to the wall" if you will) journey of healing and self-discovery. This journey has left me feeling like I just NEED to share the peace, freedom, self-love, and confidence that I have discovered not only through my studies, but also through my own personal healing. The crazy part, is that it has been within me all along. I just didn't see it because of those pesky negative thoughts I had floating around in my thoughts, in my energy, and materializing as ailments in my body. My life story, and all of the drama from the past, is way too long to properly portray here. What I can say, is that I've lived most of my life battling against myself. Battling against addictions. Battling against depression. Battling against my weight, and my body in general. Battling against my family, my friends, and my intimate partners. Battling to stay afloat financially. Just battling. Yuck, how exhausting! As a side note, I want to say, I do not claim to have completely "mastered" all of these areas of life. We are always growing, and I'm not exempt from that. What I have discovered, though, is an Inner Peace that goes with me in my life as a WHOLE. Life is a gradual unfolding and evolution of each of us collectively, and personally. Having peace that no person or situation can take away, to me, is the REAL gold. Does having Inner Peace mean I no longer get angry, or sad, or fearful? Not at all! Having Inner peace, to me, means having a Trust in life that everything is going exactly as it's meant to be going. It means I can stop trying to control everything, and just breathe. I can stop being the victim of everyone and everything. I can look at life and say "Thank You," because no matter how hard or devastating what I am going through can be, it is all for the purpose of my growth and evolution. With each event that I "make it through" in life, I learn to love and trust myself, and this Universe a little more each time. I learn how to take care of ALL of the parts of me, Holistically. I chose to become a Holistic Life Coach because my desire is that everyone ON THIS PLANET experience their own Inner Peace. For now though, I'm starting with me. Today, may you also discover you! We do too, just as much as giving it! Watch our Facebook page for our monthly free stuff contest. Each month will be different!
No matter how young or how old we are, we are going to make "mistakes," which I now like to call "learning opportunities." For a long time I believed I had to have everything together, or else I just wasn't good enough for anyone or anything. What an exhausting job that was to have. Perfectionism, in my opinion, is a slow painful death of the Spirit. A form of self abuse so subtle, that even society at large has accepted the belief as something noble.
Not to worry though, just as humans evolve, humanity is evolving, too. Collectively. Together. I don't if you have noticed or not, but the world's going a little crazy right now.(Insert sarcastic tone here) The best advice I ever received was from my boyfriend in High School, "things always get a little worse before they get better." I believe that's what's going on here now. In my personal journey, my struggle with perfectionism has broken me down time and time again. Sometimes it has been very painful. Sometimes I have had no clue what was happening, let alone what is coming next. Trying to live up to some ideal that I don't even belong to, set me up for failure over and over and over again. It's been something like judging a monkey by how well they can swim. They're not made for that, and neither am I made to be a finished product. The shattering of the wall of my inner perfectionism has led to a more authentic me. Life is meant to be lived and experimented with. Any "state of perfection" I have strived for, is point blank some kind of mental brainwashing and condition I have learned long, long ago. I don't know about you, but I'm ready to move on. I'm ready to evolve! Or to more accurately explain it: I'm ready to stop getting in the way of the evolution that is already happening... |
Rebecca Griffin
Owner and Founder of RLG Holistic Life Coaching & Reiki. Archives
August 2017
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